HEY, MISTRESS HOLLY!
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You may call Me: Goddess, Mistress, or Miss Holly. Even if we are not engaging in power exchange, I do expect to be spoken to with respect.
I welcome all experience levels and always work within your realm of comfort. I have a particular fondness for newcomers or those who are recovering from a previous bad exposure to BDSM. As an Educatrix, I look forward to coaching all who approach.
PAIN & FEAR
Scenes don't have to involve any pain, and they don't have to be scary. It is possible to have a slow and caring scene. Time is given for trust to build and nothing is done without prior consent. I do not leave marks unless they are specifically requested.
I take the health, safety, and privacy of my clients very seriously in and out of session. I have studied up on the spread of infectious diseases and how to properly clean and sterilize different surfaces with medical-grade cleaners; I clean all My toys and tools between clients. As a serious professional, I stay up to date on the latest kink education and research. Your privacy is respected like I expect you to respect Mine. Should we see each other in public I will act as if I do not know who you are beyond a knowing smile.
I fall into the category of Clothed Female Nude Male or CFNM. My body is My own and I choose who I share it with. If you ask Me to disrobe during a scene I will immediately end the session and you will not be refunded. I respect those who strip, but it is not something I engage in.
I do not invite clients into My home or ask them for body worship. Smart clients know what to do if they wish to spend more time with Me.
BRINGING MY OWN CLOTHES OR TOYS
I'm happy to use the items you have. You'll be more at ease, and it cuts down on cleaning for Me to do later. If you're bringing something as a gift to Me that you wish for Me to use on you, please be sure it is of quality. Check My Gift section for a list of My favorite shops.
This is one of the questions I go over during negotiations and will do My best to avoid allergens as much as possible. As a matter of course, I do not use any latex personal protection products. I do own a cat and dog at home, so there is a risk of animal dander transfer, though no pets reside in the studio.
SCENE VS SESSION
A "session" is the appointment time we’ve set, from the time I arrive till the time I leave. A “scene” is the actual playtime in which we engage in kinky behavior.
LIFESTYLE VS PROFESSIONAL
Lifestyle is engaging in kink and BDSM behavior in everyday life as a matter of course. Professional is someone who does it as a job and may or may not engage in it in their personal lives.
FETISH VS BDSM
Fetish is an activity or attraction to an object that a person needs in order to have fulfillment. BDSM does not have to revolve around any sort of fetish or sex, but is typically seen that way as they can go hand in hand.
I engage with pure fetishists too, you don't have to be into BDSM or power exchange. All are welcome!
I love seeing people traveling through My area! Please make sure you’re giving Me advance notice as it takes time to negotiate and plan. I do not do same day sessions and I very well may already have plans. If you wish to session with Me outside of My hours, My rate will be double.
I will not submit to clients. If you'd like to discuss switching as an educational conversation, I'm always up for that.
If you can't afford My rates, that’s too bad for you. My sessions are a luxury service; just because you want a Porsche doesn’t mean you are entitled to one.
If you feel that you have something worthy to barter for a portion of your session fee, state that during your consultation. Things I do not want or need are: cleaning of My home or dungeon; website maintenance; or sexual servitude. Otherwise, if you truly wish to see Me, you will find a way that does not involve My giving a discount.
Unfortunately, altruism doesn't pay the bills. I do not offer military discounts, student discounts, senior discounts, or any other sort of discount.
GIFTS OR TIPS
They're always appreciated, but not required. Should you enjoy your session and wish to show your gratitude, feel free to give additional tuition, buy Me a gift off My wishlist, or leave Me a positive review!
DRUGS AND ALCOHOL
I will not engage in a session with someone who is high, drunk, or otherwise in an altered state of being that would impair their judgement. Should I arrive and you are under the influence, I will leave and consider it a cancellation. If you are nervous about our session and that is why you would like to have a bit of “extra courage” please let Me know so that I may alleviate any fears and have this be a pleasant experience for you.
Cleanliness is next to godliness and you want to your Goddess to be next to you. Take a shower, brush your teeth, and wear clean clothes.
WHAT'S A FIRST SESSION LIKE?
For incall, you are to text or email Me two hours prior to our session. No contact, no session, end of discussion. You will go to the predetermined location (no more than 10 minutes) prior to our session time and text Me once you are there. You will then be given the address to the dungeon if it is your first visit, and the okay to proceed to the dungeon location. This is the protocol for ALL sessions.
You will arrive in street clothes, freshly groomed, and on time. If you are not up to My standards for required hygiene, you will be sent to freshen up. Any delay on your part due to lack of punctuality or grooming will cut into your playtime. Should you find yourself in the area very early, you may text to let Me know on the offhand chance I may be able to take you earlier. Do not show up at My location unannounced before our scheduled session time; to do so is very disrespectful to Me and others. There may be someone with a previous appointment who is leaving or I may be getting ready. Arriving early does not mean you will get to start earlier.
Once inside, we will go over topics such as how you're feeling, types of play you wish to engage in, furniture you have interest in using, and what limits you have. This is your last chance to add anything before we start playing as there is no negotiation mid-scene. You will then have an opportunity to change if needed.
From there I will set up any additional tools and toys in the area which we will scene and we will commence playing. I prefer to use the stoplight system (red means stop, yellow means slow down, green means go!) as a safeword, and you can safeword at any time, however, you cannot ask for additional activities that we did not previously discuss. That is for your protection as well as mine. I will let you know when the scene is over, though you can always call it sooner (this is when the "clock" ends).
Post-scene we'll sit and talk about how you felt the scene went, kinks or techniques you did or did not like, what you might want to try next time, and things in general that you'd like Me to know. I let you decompress as needed to avoid being jarred by reality (I always make sure you're safe and stable before your departure) and give you a chance to clean yourself up. You're always allowed to contact Me post-scene if needed for additional talk aftercare.
For outcall, you are to contact Me two hours prior to our session or one hour before I depart to your location, whichever comes first (I will let you know beforehand). No call, no session, end of discussion.
When I arrive you will greet Me at the door. I come inside, sit down and we talk about how you're feeling (tired, nervous, sore) as we all vary in how we feel from day today and you might not be up for the intense session you originally had planned. We'll go over topics we've previously discussed on the phone such as the type of play we do want to engage in, if there's any areas I need to avoid (injuries, sensitive areas, places you don't want visible marks), and what sort of positions you do or do not want to be in (you might have a bum shoulder and can't handle restraints or saw a cool scene you'd like to recreate). This is your last chance to add anything before we start playing as there is no negotiation mid-scene.
From there I will set up My tools and toys in the area which we will scene as you get yourself prepared in whatever fashion that may be, and we will commence the scene. I prefer to use the stoplight system (red means stop, yellow means slow down, green means go!) as a safeword, and you can safeword at any time, however, you cannot ask for additional activities that we did not previously discuss. That is for your protection as well as mine. I will let you know when the scene is over, though you can always call it sooner.
Post-scene we'll sit and talk about how you felt the scene went, kinks or techniques you did or did not like, what you might want to try next time, and things in general that you'd like Me to know. I let you decompress as needed to avoid being jarred at My departure. I always make sure you're safe and stable before I leave. You're also allowed to contact Me post-scene if needed for additional talk aftercare.
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